I just realized that I need a post to put my notes; to organize lists, projects and life in general. If you’d like to leave a question or comment on any post,  you will need to click the top “Post Header” of the blog article you would like to comment on and it will take you to that screen.

If you want to ask me a quick genealogy question here is the post to do that!


“Whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you’re right.”
-Henry Ford

~~~~ s M j ~~~~

1. Know WHY You Want to Be Debt-Free:

Write it down along with all the debts and amounts you owe to keep you motivated. It’ll help to keep you from spending money carelessly.

2. Look at the Full Picture: Gather all the information you can on your debt.

Write down the loan type, the amount owed, the minimum payments, the months left on the loan, the interest rate, whether the loan is variable or fixed and any other information you may need to know. Once you’ve done that, you can choose if you want to pay off the loan with the highest interest rate or the lowest balance.

3. Stop Adding to Your Debt:

If you want to be debt-free, you have to change your mindset. Don’t think of credit as a means to an end. That means committing to no longer thinking of debt as a solution. In other words, stop borrowing.

4. Only Use Cash or Debit Card:

Being on a cash budget will force you to make different decisions and change behavior.

5. Remove Temptation From Your Inbox:

Remove yourself from all coupon- and store-related email subscriptions. I downloaded Unroll.Me.

6. Be Candid With Friends: Share your goals.

Finding free or frugal ways to have fun is crucial if you’re trying to throw any extra funds toward your debt.

7. Find Free and Cheap Entertainment:

Attended free concerts and movies in the park, attended pot luck game nights with friends, and attended outings hosted by churches or universities, etc.

8. Find Ways to Make More Money:

Too many people focus solely on cutting expenses when they’re getting out of debt. Instead, think about making more money.

9. Ask for Help: You shouldn’t hide what you’re going through.

Many creditors have a hardship plan for those who can demonstrate a need, and there are many local nonprofits out there who can help give guidance. Don’t be too proud to ask for help, but don’t contact anyone without doing your due diligence first!

10. Create a Physical Barrier to Spending: Sometimes paying off debt requires you to get visual. Tape your budget to the back of your credit card.

11. Make a Visual Reminder: Make a chart and put it somewhere obvious.

12. Calculate Your Daily Interest Rate: Using the following formula: Interest Rate x Current Principal Balance ÷ Number of Days in the Year = Daily Interest.

13. Only Buy Groceries Online:

You stay on budget when food shopping because you can see your balance owed as you virtually put items in the cart.

Orville Deaton
Birth: 4 Aug 1940
Death: 17 Jan 2016

Orville, fondly referred to as O. D. was born on August 4, 1940 in Hazard, Perry County, Kentucky and passed away on Sunday, January 17, 2016 in Long Beach, Los Angeles County, California. He was preceded in death by his parents Chester and Artie Fultz Deaton and his late wife Jacqueline Faye Duvall; his siblings: Viola Barnett, Sherman, Ralph, Gerald and Gladys Jean Deaton and one step-daughter: Delores Hamlin. Although he had no known children, he is survived by his former wife Mary Sue Adkins Dyehouse and her daughter Teresa Dunn Jones.

Orville traveled a lot and lived in several states which include, Kentucky, Ohio, Oregon and California. Orville was a long time resident of Long Beach, California and remained so at the time of his passing.

O.D. was a long time employee of Pyramid Hill in Hamilton, Butler County, Ohio.

He served his country in United States Army H2 Company 2nd Armed rifle BN, 54th Infirmity 112.00 Heavy Weapons Infirmityman.

Graveside funeral services will be held at 12:30 p.m. in the Riverside National Cemetery in Riverside, California on Wednesday, February 3, 2016.

On a personal note: Orville was a character and a comic to the end; always had a joke. He loved life and those he encountered along the way. He was a creature of habit always wore sweat pants in winter or shorts in the summer. He was a longtime friend of my late father Willie Adkins they shared an apartment in Lebanon at one time, his brother Denny Adkins, and best friend and business partner of his brother Russell Adkins. He was loved by many and fondly by each of their Grandchildren. He will be missed.

Anecdote: Orville and a friend decided to hop a freight train to California. They fell asleep in a boxcar; not realizing the car was full of glue. The next morning, his hair and jacket had been glued to the floor. The only way to free himself was for his friend too cut his hair and leave his jacket.

They needed a job for some ready cash, they happen upon a man burning his house down. They asked him for a job, helping him to complete the burn, to which he agreed. After they’d finished, cold, jacket-less and black from suet, they encounter a police officer who asked where they’re going. Orville tells him his plans and he says, “I’ll tell you what I’ll do, I’ll drive you a ride to the edge of town. Don’t ever come back.” For which they obliged.

Now, desperate and needing a way back home, Orville calls his dad Chester for the money to return on. Chester’s response, “How did you get out there?” Orville said, “I hopped a freight train.” To which Chester replied, ‘Well then, that’s how you’ll have get back home!” ~ Denny Adkins

“Bye, I’ll see ya in the funny papers!’ ~ Orville Deaton

I found myself in a screaming match this morning with a crazed man in a tiny blue car at McDonald’s. Not my finest moment I will admit.

For those that know me personally, know that I’m not a morning person. I never have been. I want complete silence & coffee in the mornings. I rarely sleep so I need “quite time” in the morning. Until I’ve had my third cup of coffee or before 10 a.m. whichever comes first – or both, I have NO FILTER.

If it’s on my brain… it comes out of my mouth.

The sad part of it was, I was about to apologize to him because I honestly didn’t see him. But before I could get a word out, he was screaming and telling me that I was number one with his middle finger. Now, me having two of my Grandchildren in the car and being beyond LIVID at this point, I started screaming back.

Like, I said, not my finest moment. Breathe… just breathe. My new mantra. I think I have to say it now, about 10 times a day. Since I’ve hit menopause, I can’t even believe the maniac that I’ve become. I am a completely different person.
Moving on, enough about my me already.

I haven’t posted much lately, a few deaths or maybe a recipe or two that someone has asked me for, that’s about it.

Since the advent of so many social media sites, I can’t keep up. Facebook and whatnot, I no longer feel relevant. People post nonstop – all day, every day! Everything you want or need to know, sometimes, more that you need to know, TMI! It’s all out there. I have shared all that I have with each of you. I promise I haven’t held anything back. If I had discovered it, I put it in print. I know I haven’t responded to many of the questions or comments that were posted last year, but a lot of the family members of those with questions have and I’m truly thankful for that. So please feel free to ask. Someone may have the very information that you’re looking for.

If that information isn’t on my blog then I simply don’t have it. If it’s not here, please try your local cemetery or Find-A-Grave. I no longer use or trust Ancestry.com for information. They’ve made their site nearly impossible to maneuver. I think it’s to make people stay on longer – job security, I guess. Such a shame; they had a great site in the beginning.

I will maintain my blog as I have for sometime now, about my family, children or more importantly my “Grands”. They make my world go round. A world where I’ll always discover something that will inspire and delight me. I do post my daily “crazy” life or as I commonly refer to it as “My Big Fat Redneck Retirement,” with my family and friends on Facebook. I’ve tried Twitter a few times, I honestly, think that’s more work than I care to put into it.

I can’t Instagram because I can never remember to take a photo; trying. I am however tagged in many so that works out for me. You know that I have to be prompted to take a photo, even with my phone in hand, I’m usually too caught up in the moment to take pix. Pictures are an afterthought. Not good either, after the party is cleaned up, the only thing left are the photos. I’m trying to get better at that. Maybe one day.



  • 8th: Birthday: My Grandson Tron turned fourteen last week. We celebrated with a small party at home. I gifted him a set of Beats headphones. I’m not sure that it was the best gift I could have gifted, but it was what he asked for. Enjoy! I can’t believe how fast they’re growing up.
  • 10th: Birthday: Nephew Billy Collins – Happy Birthday!
    Birthday: My Granddaughter Allie “Belle” – so sweet. Happy birthday! I bought her an anatomically correct doll that she has named Isaac; she’s totally in love. Her baby doll “Ava” now has a brother. Grandpa Anthony hates the idea (he’s such a prude). Now she has two babies to care for every day. She’s a wonderful mommy.
  • 11th: Birthday: Great Niece Sidney Lynn Metcalf turned sixteen, this week and I’d like to wish her a VERY Happy Birthday. The kids celebrated with a night on the town at The Web, complete with limo, pizza and sleepover. #games
  • 15th: Birthday: Niece Anna Metcalf Moore – Happy Birthday to you!
  • 19th: Birthday: Sister-in-law C. Joy Metcalf Rose – Happy Birthday to you!
  • 20th: Anniversary: Daughter Mandy & Son-in-Law Alan Whiteside are about to celebrate their 15th wedding Anniversary next week. I’d like to wish them the Happiest day ever!
    Anniversary: Brother-in-law Chris & his wife Laura Townsend Metcalf. Happy Anniversary to the both of you.
  • 23rd: Birthday: William Metcalf aka Bill a very Happy Birthday. We wish him all the best.
    Birthday: Niece Angela Metcalf, wishing you a very happy birthday.


Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years. ~ Ausonius

~ appetizers ~
Cheese chunks, Cashews, Salami

~ beverages ~
Pop – Water – Sweet Tea
24 cans Coke & 4 liters of Pop

~ soup ~
Beef Barley Soup

~ main ~
Turkey & Dressing
Glazed Ham

~ sides ~
Mashed Potatoes
Turkey & Brown Gravies
Sweet Potato Casserole
Green Bean Casserole
Corn Pudding
Jellied Cranberry Sauce
Deviled Eggs

~ bread/rolls ~
Dinner Rolls
Pull Apart Bread

~ desserts ~
Pumpkin Pie w/ Whip Cream
Cherry Pie w/ Vanilla Ice Cream
Chocolate & White Cupcakes

~ snacks ~
Chili Cheese Frito’s
Cheese Pringles
Potato Chips & Dip


Sweet Potato Casserole

Mix the following ingredients well and pour into buttered pan:

  • 4 cups mashed sweet potatoes
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 1/2 tsp. salt
  • 1/3 stick Parkay (melted)
  • 1 tsp. vanilla


  • 1 cup brown sugar
  • 1/2 cup flour
  • 1/3 cup Parkay (melted)
  • 1 cup pecans or walnuts pieces

Crumble topping evenly over sweet potato mixture. Bake at 350° for 35-45 minutes uncovered.


Thanksgiving defined as: A public acknowledgment or celebration of divine goodness; also, a day set apart for religious services, specially to acknowledge the goodness of God, either in any remarkable deliverance from calamities or danger, or in the ordinary dispensation of his bounties. ~ Webster & me!


Not a Morning Person

I know I said that I’d only do this once, but I have made so many needed changes over the years, I thought it was only right to let everyone know what I am currently using. I still get asked often & to be honest, I find myself asking other women, that are a few years older than I, what’s working for them. I have tons of samples and lots of random products, that we as women want to try so, we pick up here & there, but we always go back to the basics, what we like or works for us. Creatures of habit, I guess. Here goes my updated list…

Skincare: I still like to cherry pick my products & use so many different things. For many years, I swore by Mary Kay, but then I got wrinkles and quit, but am trying their new line of TimeWise Repair™ Volu-Firm™ Set! This is their anti-aging products. I seem to be liking them for the most part, but I can’t I say that I love them. I use the MK Foaming Cleanser, Dermalogica Multi-Active toner, Love the – MK Lifting Serum, MK Day Cream Sunscreen Broad Spectrum SPF 30*, & MK Eye Renewal Cream. OLAY Regenerating cream cleanser is always in the bathroom. Bare Minerals skincare extra firming neck cream. You don’t notice the effects when you’re using it, but really do when you don’t. Feel free to check my updated Pinterest Cosmetic page.


  • Skin Optimizer: Laura Geller Spackle
  • Concealer: Laura Geller Seamless Finish Cream Concealer Stick in Light and/or Bare Minerals Concealer powder.
  • Foundation: Laura Geller Take Cover Anti-Aging Foundation SPF 20 in Fair.
  • Pressed Powder: Laura Geller Powder Foundation, L’Oréal True Match Super Blendable W2 light ivory & W3 buff nude powder usually, among many others. I have some IT, but ?
  • Hydration Mist: Dermalogica antioxidant hydramist.
  • Blush: Clinique Heather pop or Laura Geller Blush-N-Brighten in lots of shades – Brulee Blush Apple Custard is one of my fav’s.
  • Brushes: I love Laura Geller. I do have many others, some over 25 years. Proper care, light wash in conditioning shampoo, reshape & let air dry.
  • Eyeliner/defining pencil: Starlooks Pro Luxe Longwear Eyeliner Pen. tarte skinny SmolderEYES Amazonian Clay.
  • Shadows: No7, Laura Geller, Clinique, & L’Oréal, still too many to list; love the neutrals.
  • Eye Brighteners: Mally’s Beauty Light Wand Eye Brightener.
  • Brows: Laura Geller or Revlon Brow Fantasy in dark blonde.
  • Mascara: Clinique high impact mascara, Great Lashes in Very Black and/or L’Oréal Million Lashes.
  • Lip Pencil: It Cosmetics YLBB in Blushing Nude, Bobbi Brown – tawny or Laura Geller in mostly nudes to chocolate shades.
  • Lipstick/Gloss: Too many to list here, favorites are Maybelline Warm Me Up 235, Dr. Denese Peach Lip Firm Gloss with SPF 15 and anything by L’Oréal.

Nail Enamel: rarely ever paint my nails, I love the clean, just buffed look.

Deodorant: Powder Fresh Ban.

Fragrance: I loved & used “PHILOSOPHY’s INNER GRACE FRAGRANCE, but it’s MIA. I use Bvlgari, but am wanting to try Narciso Rodriguez’s fragrance, just to see if it smells the same as Inner Grace. I hope they bring it back soon.

Hair care: L’Oréal Color Vibrancy Nourishing Shampoo & Conditioner, Suave Professionals Keratin Infusion Smoothing Shampoo & Conditioner, Big Sexy Hair Root Pump, Nexxus Maxximum Extraordinary Hold Finishing Mist, BedHead: Maxxed-Out, Redken Cat Protein Reconstructing Treatment; among others.

Body care: St. Ives Body Wash Oatmeal and Shea Butter & Olay Ultra Moisture In-Shower Body Lotion.

That about sums it up for me. I’m always on the lookout for new product to try. I do hope you’ll share what you love with me.

Never go ugly! A woman needs to feel confident on the inside and beautiful on the outside. At every age! ~ me

PS: L’Oréal Paris – Biotherm – Cacharel – Dermablend – Garnier – Giorgio Armani Perfumes and Cosmetics – Kérastase – Kiehl’s Since 1851 – L’Oréal Professionnel – L’Oréal Technique – La Roche-Posay – Lancôme – Matrix – Maybelline New York – Mizani – Ralph Lauren Fragrances – Redken – Shu Uemura – Skinceuticals – Softsheen-Carson – Vichy – Viktor & Rolf Parfums are products that I love & are all L’Oréal Paris owned, so don’t be a cosmetic snob. Elf, Rimmel & other companies make wonderful products, don’t be afraid to give them all try. You may find you can’t live without one.

Have a beautiful day!

Patricia Ann Hazlett, age 66, of Greenwood, South Carolina, died Thursday October 22, 2015 in South Carolina. She was born in Dayton, Ohio on April 16, 1949 to Erman and Edith (Stamper) Pearson. She was preceded in death by her father, Erman Pearson, mother, Edith Pearson. Patricia was a loving wife, mother, grandmother and sister. She was loved by all her family and friends and she cherished all who knew her, including her dog, Pierre. Patricia is survived by her husband of 43 years Roy Eugene Hazlett, daughter, Kathryn Marie Hazlett; son, Michael Eugene Hazlett; two grandsons, Gabriel Michael Hazlett, Ayden Conner Hazlett; brother, Doyle Pearson and wife Fern, their children, Curtis and Clinton Pearson; sister, Phyllis Moore and her child Ryan Moore; and numerous great nieces and nephews. The Memorial Service is at 11am Saturday, October 31, 2015 at Anderson Funeral Home 1357 E. 2nd St Franklin, OH with Dan Flory officiating. Visitation will be Saturday from 10:00 am to 11:00 am at the funeral home. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Humane Society, 239 Wilbanks Cr. Greenwood, SC 29649.

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love. ~ Henry Drummond

They say confession is good for the soul. I had been working meticulously on my “Cook” lineage on my family tree, non stop, for almost an entire year now. That’s why I haven’t updated my blog. I’ve made many changes & tracked so many people & nothing new.

So with that said, here goes…

Havilah “Viley” Cook (1867-1894) Birth 23 Dec 1867 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA & Death 1 Apr 1894 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA Burial: Cook Cemetery

After 7 long years and hundreds of man-hours logged, to which my husband can attest, I have decided to do the unthinkable. I know that I personally have done as much, to muck up the family tree, as anyone. I also know that if I leave it on Ancestry for a year, everyone will copy it without question. Without a single shred of evidence, on my part, or anyone else’s. I decided that the most logical thing to do was to merge daughter Sarah M Cook with my Maggie Cook. I have double & triple checked every Margaret (every spelling) in 3 counties & states. I know at first glance, it seems like a no-brainer, but her death certificate reads Mother: Marth Hammond. Informant was Reed, Robert – whom I would assume was the undertaker (signed Robbert Reed). You’d think the undertaker would know everybody. Her siblings reported their mothers surname to be “Dunn.”

We all know that our Havilah (1867-1894) was the Grandson of Havilah 1807, by his daughter Elizabeth aka “Viley” married Martha Reed. Witnessed by Louis Reed (which implies some type of kinship) [17 March 1887 Havila COOK Home of *Louis REED Dock SLUSHER J D BAYES, Min Martha REED Ambrose COLVIN ] [1887 Magoffin Co.,KY Marriages]

Unless Martha Reed died immediately after the wedding or she was married to a Dunn immediately after Havilah’s death or any other number of possible scenarios could play out here. IDK! That’s the only way I see her as the same person.

Plot Twist, Martha Ann Cook (1871-1909) died… Death: 16 Apr 1909 in Magoffin, Kentucky – according to her tombstone. So, my question is…. how is she alive & living with the children married to Viley’s brother, John J Cook, a year later April 28, 1910? I know, right?

Daughter: Manerva Cook(1887-1952) Birth 26 Jan 1887 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA & Death 24 Oct 1952 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA married Ben Abbott Adams (1889 – 1960). So far, Manerva has been my favorite person to track.
Name: Manerva Adams
[Manerva Cook]
Death Date: 24 Oct 1952
Death Location: Magoffin, Kentucky, USA
Age: 65
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birth Date: 26 Jan 1887
Birth Location: Kentucky
Father’s name: Haviliah Cook
Mother’s name: Martha Dunn

Daughter Sarah M Cook. Born in Oct 1889 – now merged (on my tree) with my Margaret Cook Reed. Married William Grats Reed. [26 July 1905 Crate REED at the J N HOWARD Store House Scott HOWARD H G HOWARD, Min Margaret COOK J H HOWARD].
Name: Margret Reed
[Margret Cook]
Death Date: 26 Jan 1912
Death Location: Magoffin, Kentucky, USA
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birth Date: 20 Oct 1891
Birth Location: Magoffin, Kentucky
Father’s name: Vibey Cook
Father’s Birth Location: Kentucky
Mother’s name: Marth Hamond
Mother’s Birth Location: Kentucky

Son: Fred Cook aka Freadie (1892-1979) Birth 14 Dec 1892 in Elsie, Magoffin, Kentucky, USA & Death 13 Feb 1979 in Morgan, Kentucky, USA married Sarah Margaret Colvin (1893 – 1968).

Son: John Wesley Cook (1894-1925) Birth 18 Mar 1894 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA & Death 4 Mar 1925 in Whitesburg, Letcher, Kentucky, USA married Hester Smith Cook Stacy (1897-1966) [Murdered by his brother-in-law Wm J. Smith.
Name: John W Cook
Death Date: 4 Mar 1925
Death Location: Letcher, Kentucky, USA
Gender: Male
Race: White
Birth Location: Kentucky
Father’s name: Viley Cook


John J Cook (1865-1938) died 16 Feb 1938 in Magoffin, Kentucky according to his headstone, but I have NEVER found a death certificate listed anywhere for him. Nor, have I found him living anywhere in 1930 & believe me, I have LOOKED!

John J’s 1st wife Mary J “Belle” Tolson Cook [Marriage: 7 July 1887 John COOK Home of I C HOWARD Sofa J SELLERS I C HOWARD, Min Mary J TOLSON Matthew AMYX] is dead, death unknown unassumingly by 1900, since she’s not living with John J. He’s living with the widow Marthy Cook aka Martha Ann Cook & her children – but he claims to be “married” 13 years(accurate). He doesn’t say widow – for whatever reason. John J’s tombstone, which was placed years later; someone has listed Havilah as his father(instead of Grandfather).
John J’s daughter Annie (as listed on his tombstone) has a Social Security Claim record – where he records indicate Mamma Belle is still alive in 1895 & giving birth.
Name: Anna Cook Mattox
[Anna Cook Cook]
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birth Date: 2 Apr 1895
Birth Place: Salyorsville, Kentucky
Father Name: John Cook
Mother Name: Belle Toltson
Type of Claim: Original SSN.
Notes: Aug 1943: Name listed as ANNA COOK MATTOX

Annie married John Mattox (1895 – 1963) and she died on 26 Aug 1974 in Lawrence, Ohio, USA

John J Cook’s tombstone also indicates a son Cecil – I have never found any record of him either. Unless he is buried in the same cemetery? IDK!

2nd Marriage to Martha Cook [4 February 1902 John J COOK Home of John COOK *Louise HAMMON B G HOWARD, Min Martha COOK Clandy HOOD]
*Witnesses: Louis Reed – Louise Hammon? Similar … Could be?

Two children that have a HUGE question mark in my book & will take DNA to establish lineage, are daughter: Bessie Cook Kemplin (Charlie)(1896-1958) & son: Mallie Cook (1899-1961). Mallie told his children that he was adopted. I’m starting to think Bessie was as well. Bessie was born 10 Jul 1896 in Magoffin, Kentucky, USA. Her SS claim:
Name: Bessie Cook Kemplin
[Bessie Cook Cook]
Gender: Female
Race: White
Birth Date: 10 Jul 1896
Birth Place: Magoffin CO, Kentucky
Father Name: John Cook
Mother Name: Martha Dunn
Type of Claim: Original SSN.
Notes: Dec 1940: Name listed as BESSIE COOK KEMPLIN

Seems clear enough – but Viley died 1 Apr 1894 & Bessie was born 10 Jul 1896. That’s a full two years after his death & two years before John J’s & Martha Cook’s marriage – 4 February 1902. She didn’t fall out of the sky, so she must have been adopted, but by whom? And why?

Daughter to Martha & John J. Cook: Louisa “Louise” Cook Louise Cook (1904-1984) married George Matthew Robinette (1881 – 1945) & Clarence Russell May (1896 – 1980). I love that they buried her in the Cook Cemetery alongside her 1st husband. That’s unusual, but very sweet.

Son to Martha & John J. Cook, Thomas Cook married Ethel Bailey (1913 – 1999).

Now you have what I have, and the reason for my decision. Take a long hard look at the evidence, admittedly circumstantial, at best. You be the judge. See if you come to a different conclusion, please let me know. I’m open to any & all suggestions or corrections.

NOTE: Martha Whitaker Dunn (1870-1964) daughter of David Arnett Dunn & Elizabeth Patrick Dunn. 4th wife of Jeremiah M “Jerry” Dunn (1849 – 1927) 20 February 1899 J M DUNN Home of C C WILLIAMS William PRATER Eli WILLIAMS, Min Martha WHITAKER James BAILEY. Never remarried. The two had 7 known children. Their daughter Margaret Dunn (1908 – 1992) married Clifford Stone. Died in Jackson, Michigan.

Let me know what you think.

Thanks as always,
Sheila Jean Adkins Metcalf

Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da


Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 89 other followers