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“Whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can’t, you’re right.”
-Henry Ford

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dressingThe Holiday’s are fast approaching.  I realize that it’s early, but I was going thru all of my Holiday planners, starting to book dates, trying to dot my i’s & cross my t’s. I was looking at some old recipes and realized that I had never put a recipe for my mom’s dressing on the family blog. I’ve never written it down before, so I quickly free-handed it from memory. Truth be known, I could make it in my sleep. I’ve made it every Holiday dinner that I’ve ever cooked a turkey. To be honest, some batches have failed when I used too much broth or allowed to much fat into it; it can fry. Not good. If you have any questions,  just comment below.

Tear 1 loaf of white bread into pieces, tossing them into a large bowl. Chop 1 med onion & dice 1 stalk of celery on top. Add 2 teaspoons poultry seasoning, 2 tablespoons of ground sage, & some black pepper. Then dump enough broth off of the baking Turkey to moisten the dressing, folding as you go. Not too much. As soon as its holding together. Turn it out into a sprayed 9x13x2. Toss a few bread crumbs on top. Lightly sprinkle them with sage. Place into a 350 degree oven for 45 minutes. You can garnish it with a few sage leaves, but it’s not necessary.

Good stuff! So easy! I only wish she was here to share it with us, but I’m thankful that she took the time to teach me to make it.

My most memorable meal is every Thanksgiving. I love the food: the turkey and dressing, glazed ham, the candied yams or sweet potato casserole – sometimes both, some mashed potatoes and gravy, a little Green-bean casserole, a spoonful of baked beans, a big bowl of Potato or Beef Barley Soup with some buttered pull apart bread, my corn casserole or Jiffy’s corn pudding, my mom’s rice pudding without raisins, jellied cranberry Sauce or cranberry relish, a few deviled eggs, a dinner roll, my Mom’s Ambrosia Fruit Salad that no one eats but me and of course, a big slice of pumpkin pie with a big dollop of whipped cream… Yum! ~ Sheila Jean Adkins Metcalf


I wanted to share a comment that my friend made on FB today, before she regrets it & takes it down. I believe it needs to be shared to remind us of how to act in these times. Rarely, do people share their feelings about the days leading up to a loss. I’m going to print this out & put it in my prayer journal. I would hope you’d do the same.

Her family has recently gone through the loss of her father, even though he was a devote Christian that has gone home, it’s hard for those that experience loss. I won’t share her name here, just know the family is loved and deeply appreciated.

She writes:

It could be that my emotions are still “raw” and I might regret posting this later or maybe it’s good to express this while it’s still fresh on my mind. I’ve learned some things over the past month and would like to just express my “take” on things. I’d like to post some “to do” and “not to do” things when someone’s loved one is dying. Sure I get it. You care.

But some common sense needs to apply.

When you choose to visit the home of a terminally ill person, keep your visits VERY short. They likely tire quickly and want to rest. Please leave your children at home. Even the best behaved kids get restless. The family of the ill person needs to be focused on their loved one, not on keeping your children entertained, fed, and out of trouble.

Look at the clock. Please time your visits so that you are not interrupting a meal…and consider that at a time like this, meals might not be at regular times.

Please refrain from recounting the experience of your loved ones’ deaths. That isn’t really very comforting. Once a person enters the “actively dying” stage, don’t just pop in at your convenience. Call ahead to ask what would be a good time to visit.

When a person has been moved to Hospice, visit ONCE and say your good byes. While in a Hospice room, please keep your voices low and limit the number of people in the room to 1 or 2. If you want to laugh, joke, and fellowship, kindly take it to the lounge area. Your visit should be to comfort the family and you can do that without being in the room of the dying person.

If you REALLY want to do something to help, don’t SAY is there anything you need? We likely will say no. Just DO something. Go mow the grass or sweep off the porch, offer to take the car through the car wash. One of the best was a huge basket of snacks and fruit (and a scheduled call for delivery) Breakfast food, paper products, water bottles, soda pop have all been “different” and very much appreciated.

Kindly be careful what you put on Facebook. Let the family be responsible for making announcements…when they are actually true.

After the passing, give the family time. The days between the death and the funeral is a busy and difficult time. Save your visits for a few weeks down the road when the reality sets in and the person is now alone.

Love to all whose whom are going through the loss of a someone they love. It’s a challenge that we will all face from time to time & it’s hard to know the proper etiquette.

Also, I would like to remind everyone that it is still the LAW to stop for a funeral procession, please do show your respects for the suffering family members.

Thank you & God Bless.

  1. The Tale of Peter Rabbit by Beatrix Potter
  2. The Gruffalo by Julia Donaldson
  3. We’re Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen
  4. The Tiger Who Came to Tea by Judith Kerr
  5. Winnie-the-Pooh by AA Milne
  6. The Enchanted Wood by Enid Blyton
  7. The Worst Witch by Jill Murphy
  8. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl
  9. The Story of Tracy Beaker by Jacqueline Wilson
  10. Goodnight Mister Tom by Michelle Magorian
  11. Watership Down by Richard Adams
  12. Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone by JK Rowling
  13. Artemis Fowl by Eoin Colfer
  14. Stormbreaker by Anthony Horowitz
  15. Noughts & Crosses by Malorie Blackman
  16. I Capture The Castle by Dodie Smith
  17. Lord of the Flies by William Golding
  18. The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas by John Boyne
  19. The Secret Diary of Adrian Mole, Aged 13 3/4 by Sue Townsend
  20. The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank
  21. Little Women by Louisa May Alcott
  22. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
  23. Catch-22 by Joseph Heller
  24. The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck
  25. The Great Gatsby by F Scott Fitzgerald
  26. The Hound of the Baskervilles by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
  27. Tess of the d’Urbervilles by Thomas Hardy
  28. Frankenstein by Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
  29. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
  30. The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde
  31. The Man Who Mistook His Wife for His Hat by Oliver Sacks
  32. The Hare with the Amber Eyes by Edmund de Waal
  33. Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami
  34. Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy by John le Carre
  35. The Wasp Factory by Iain Banks
  36. Midnight’s Children by Salman Rushdie
  37. Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit by Jeanette Winterson
  38. The Commitments by Roddy Doyle
  39. Schindler’s Ark by Thomas Keneally
  40. Knots and Crosses by Ian Rankin
  41. Gulliver’s Travels by Jonathan Swift
  42. Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte
  43. Great Expectations by Charles Dickens
  44. The Mill on the Floss by George Elliot
  45. Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  46. The Fellowship of the Ring by JRR Tolkien
  47. American Gods by Neil Gaiman
  48. The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
  49. The Stand by Stephen King
  50. The Time Machine by HG Wells
  51. The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett
  52. Watchmen by Alan Moore and Dave Gibbons
  53. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams
  54. Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? by Philip K Dick
  55. A Game of Thrones by George RR Martin
  56. The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini
  57. Trainspotting by Irvine Welsh
  58. High Fidelity by Nick Hornby
  59. Bridget Jones’s Diary by Helen Fielding
  60. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak
  61. White Teeth by Zadie Smith
  62. The Road by Cormac McCarthy
  63. American Psycho by Bret Easton Ellis
  64. The English Patient by Michael Ondaatje
  65. Atonement by Ian McEwan
  66. A Fine Balance by Rohinton Mistry
  67. The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver
  68. The Secret History by Donna Tartt
  69. Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
  70. Birdsong by Sebastian Faulks
  71. The Girl with a Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson
  72. Last Orders by Graham Swift
  73. The Sense of an Ending by Julian Barnes
  74. Dissolution by CJ Sansom
  75. London Fields by Martin Amis
  76. Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S Thompson
  77. Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell
  78. One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
  79. In Cold Blood by Truman Capote
  80. Cider with Rosie by Laurie Lee
  81. Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
  82. Casino Royale by Ian Fleming
  83. The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway
  84. Brideshead Revisited by Evelyn Waugh
  85. Brighton Rock by Graham Greene
  86. Rebecca by Daphne de Maurier
  87. Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie
  88. All Quiet on the Western Front by Erich Maria Remarque
  89. To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf
  90. My Man Jeeves by PG Wodehouse
  91. Freakonomics by Steven D Levitt
  92. A Brief History of Time by Stephen Hawkins
  93. Long Walk to Freedom by Nelson Mandela
  94. Wild Swans by Jung Chang
  95. London: The Biography by Peter Ackroyd
  96. Venice by Jan Morris
  97. Notes From a Small Island by Bill Bryson
  98. The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins
  99. A History of the World in 100 Objects by Neil Macgregor
  100. Bad Science by Ben Goldacre

I want to remember this list to gift my grandchildren. Some gifts are priceless.

There is no friend as loyal as a book. ~ Ernest Hemingway

Even though we’re still in summer-fun mode, I was curious if any of you have done any shopping for school already. Have you stocked up on pencils, crayons & glue sticks? Done any clothes shopping for the kids?

Believe it or not, I still usually end up buying a handful of things for the grandchildren and because the stores put out so many supplies, I tend to stock up on a few for the office as well; while their on the cheap.

Today, I was asked where I was during the Moon landing 45 years ago, and it’s funny, not thinking that it was in July when Neil stepped out, my mind immediately went back to my elementary school days. The teachers would escort us all down to library to watch the landings together on TV. We had to sit on our knees with our hands folded in our laps, lights turned off. If you made any commotion then you were escorted back to class without getting to witness the most exciting moments of all time unfold before your eyes.

School can be both, a learning experience and culture shock. Be prepared.

Let us know if you’ve shopped for school already this summer!


America, you beautiful, wonderful country, you don’t look a day over your 238 years.

Here’s to many more.

Enjoy the day, everyone!

Just out of curiosity, does anyone else have trouble getting the kitchen cleaned up from breakfast? No matter what type of breakfast we have (& believe me, they’re not elaborate most days), it seems to take me forever to clean up the dishes, toast crumbs, etc. Make me feel better – it’s not just me, right? Right?!? Thank you.

At my age, I’ve come to the conclusion that we’ve all set our kitchens up wrong. Scientists insist that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, yet we make little to no effort to prepare for it. My mom would make big meals for breakfast, but I never ate it. I didn’t like it – then or now. I cook it for everyone else, most days, but can’t really stomach it for myself. No pun intended. I don’t mind something quick with my COFFEE! Like a granola bar or donuts, something easy.

This morning, I had an epiphany & decided to round up a few ideas. If I could sit the kitchen up like a hotel breakfast bar, complete with Continental Breakfast, nothing too fancy, just the basics. The fam could just grab the milk &/or juice… Voila! And there you have it! Done & done. It would also be a way to streamline the snacks. The fruit & granola bars are already out, the kids would have to put forth effort to get to the pop & chips. What do you think they’ll grab first?

Honestly, I think if Julia Child had – had children, her kitchen would have looked a whole lot different than the one placed at the Smithsonian. Just sayin’

To include any variety of sliced bread or toast with butter/jam/jelly/honey, cheese, meat, croissants, muffins, pastries, bear claws, Croissant & Scones, rolls, pancakes with syrup, cornflakes or other cereal, yogurt/granola, coffee/tea, fruit juice(s). Use paper plates, plastic forks & spoons, paper napkins, etc.. Don’t feel guilty, you’re saving time & water. Less mess. Heck, I may even start to order the paper, I could sit & read it; gain some badly needed quiet time.

A simple enough pleasure, surely, to have breakfast alone with one’s husband, but how seldom married people in the midst of life achieve it. ~ Anne Spencer

Seems a little hard to believe, but here we are! How has the first half of the month gone for you so far? Busy, busy, busy, or easy, easy, easy? Will the 2nd half be busier, or easier, than the first?

We wish a very Happy Father’s Day to Anthony & all the dads, granddads, stepdads, future or soon to be dads & father figures in our lives! We’re grateful for all of you! Anthony got a little more than he should have this year, but it’s good to be spoiled a little every now & then or maybe few times a year, just to let them know how much they mean to us.

I to take a few minutes here & wish Mandy’s dearest friend & *Anthony’s second cousin once removed, Kimberly Adkins Bain and her wonderful husband Jantzen Bain a very special Congratulations on the birth of their new son Henry Sherman Bain. Born: 16 Jun 2014 at 4:06 p.m.. Weighed 7.09 pounds. 21 inches long. A handsome addition to the family. God Bless.

I’m hoping she’ll start journaling to remember her experiences. You think you’ll never forget, but if that were true then no one would have a second child. Believe it.

Children & Family Life: Were you surprised at the impact they had on your life? Were you ready?

Note for each child

  • The child’s name, birth date, sex, place of birth, and any other noteworthy circumstance of the birth.
  • Attend any classes or programs and/or were they beneficial?
  • Any significant milestones or highlights or turning points in his or her life during this period.
  • Other people living with you in your family (or you with them), who they were & why you were all living together. Anything noteworthy that occurred in their lives during this period?

We’ll be planning a few big birthday celebrations over the next few weeks ourselves. Mandy will be going away for her birthday, it will be odd not to celebrate it together, but part of growing up – is growing independent. Starting your own traditions as a family. It’s hard to except change, but it’s as much a part of life as giving birth. Sigh. She’ll be back in time to celebrate Anthony’s with him. I may add a little B~Day table for her. Make it a twofer.

We’ve been road-tripping a lot this month to Tennessee, Indiana & around day trip to Lake Huron in Bay City, Michigan. I still can’t believe that I had that in me. Guess, we’re not that old after all. Oh wait, these lines on my face tell a very different story. How about you? Anything exciting to report?

Fill us in on your June so far!

What you are, you are by accident of birth; what I am, I am by myself. There are and will be a thousand princes; there is only one Beethoven. ~ Ludwig van Beethoven

*Yes, an Adkins on Anthony’s side. His mother Lula Mae’s sister Clara aka Clarie married an Adkins. So far, I cannot connect the two lines. I’m sure I will someday, but so far no luck.


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