If you can recall, I used to do a monthly segment on the 15th of every month of little quotes that I read that stuck with me, I thought I’d post a new one this month. Here are a few that caught my eye…

“My ideas usually come not at my desk writing but in the midst of living.” ~ Anais Nin

“All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“To love is to change, and to be perfect is to have changed often.” ~ John Henry Newman

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Noise proves nothing. Often a hen who has merely laid an egg cackles as if she laid an asteroid.” ~ Mark Twain

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Do not undertake anything beyond your capacity and at the same time do not harbor the wish to do less than you can. One who takes up tasks beyond his powers is proud and attached. One who does less than he can is a thief.”
~ Mohandas K. Gandhi

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“One option is to struggle to be heard whenever you’re in the room… Another is to be the sort of person who is missed when you’re not. The first involves making noise. The second involves making a difference.” ~ Godin

“Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

“Ability is a wonderful thing, but its value is greatly enhanced by dependability. Ability implies repeatability and accountability. ” ~ Robert A. Heinlein

“Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue. ~ Anonymous

With this being the next-to-last weekend before Christmas, I’m feeling a bit frazzled, but I’d prefer my Friday to be fabulous. I’m going to take a few minutes & look over my lists (check them twice!), prioritize. That, some deep breathing, and a chocolate, peanut-butter, banana shake should help those feelings fade. What are you going to do today to make your Friday a little less frazzled & a little more fabulous?

The traveller, however virginal and enthusiastic, does not enjoy an unbroken ecstasy. He has periods of gloom, periods when he asks himself the object of all these exertions, and puts the question whether or not he is really experiencing pleasure. At such times he suspects that he is not seeing the right things, that the characteristic, the right aspects of these strange scenes are escaping him. He looks forward dully to the days of his holiday yet to pass, and wonders how he will dispose of them. He is disgusted because his money is not more, his command of the language so slight, and his capacity for enjoyment so limited. ~ Arnold Bennett

It’s hard to believe this is the last day of the month, and the days are only going to fly by even more in the next month. Looking back over the month of November, what’s one thing you accomplished to make the next month less stressful, less crazy, more fun?

As we struggle with shopping lists and invitations, compounded by December’s bad weather, it is good to be reminded that there are people in our lives who are worth this aggravation, and people to whom we are worth the same. ~ Donald E. Westlake

Ronnie say’s that he’s not tech savvy. His daughter handles all of his computer needs. Believe me, I wish he did, many is the time, that I would have love to jet him a line or two, but nope. He’s so nice when you call, he really is, just give him a call and see what he thinks.

As for my research, I’ve been spending even more quality time with my family and working a lot more these days than usual. I actually, just walked through the door and sat down. Then was thrilled to see your comment.

Most of the Adkins’ from Missouri come down from William. Most are from my own great uncles, son’s of Lewis Adkins. I’m headed out that way to try and find Eli Adkins’s death date and burial. He was alive and well in 1939 from his electric bills, so I have a place to start. People think I don’t take this seriously, but when you’re tracking people the same way the IRS does, that’s serious. I’m just teasing, but I do want to find his information and maybe his family if they’re still there. Benjamen’s as well. That will probably be more along the line of next year. Cross your fingers.

I plan on spending a peaceful Holiday at home with my family for the remainder of this year – some badly needed R & R. Then I’ll try and see what I can get from more of the distant cousins on and off the reservation. I was promised some (old) pictures and a few new books should be on the market soon, maybe by then some thing new will be found. I know where some stuff is, just can’t get it for us.

As for “Multitudes and Milestones”… I have done a few excerpts, but I cannot complete it, since I have vowed to never write a book and that’s what it would end up being. So, I just blog away. Too many of the family and non-members that have written – have threatened me with all sorts of things. So that’s out. I give my work away for FREE. If I learn something, I share it, its that simple. I haven’t made a dime off of the family and don’t plan to start now. It’s what I love to do and will continue to do, as long as I live. I’ll just keep writing as long as people keep reading. The book would end up with a hundred family members names as coauthors, since no one could write this alone.

I cover more on my close family now, but you can read Me & William V http://wp.me/p8juh-1ey it kind of sets the stage for where I’m at at this point in my life or http://wp.me/p8juh-1hO which should shed even more light. I’m taking some badly needed time off, but will always be here for question and answer sessions.

I love to hear from family and hear their stories, so come back often and share whatever, where your hubby comes from, thoughts and ideas and/or any family stories, maybe a recipe or two… my door is always open.

Thanks as always and Welcome to the family,
Sheila Jean Adkins Metcalf


Courage is as often the outcome of despair as hope; in the one case we have nothing to lose, in the other all to gain. ~ Diane de Poitiers

“A peaceful world is a world in which difference are tolerated and are not eliminated by violence.” ~ JOHN FOSTER DULLES

“A man never describes his own character so clearly as when he describes another.” ~ JEAN PAUL RICHTER

“There is a deep innate, almost inexpressible yearning within each one of us to find our voice in life.” ~ STEPHEN R COVEY

“If you judge others you will no time to love them.” ~ MOTHER TERESA

“No one can whistle a symphony. It takes an orchestra to play it.” ~ H. E. LUCCOCK

“The great thing about getting older is that you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.” ~ MADELEINE L’ENGLE

“There is somebody smarter than any of us, and that is all of us.” ~ Michael Nolan

“There is always a best way of doing everything if it be to boil an egg. Manners are the happy ways of doing things.” ~ RALPH WALDO EMERSON

“What is now proved was once only imagined.” ~ WILLIAM BLAKE

My mom worked at Cassano’s Pizza King, for the better part of my childhood. She would complain about never getting her nickel raise when it was due and the boss giving one to his newest girlfriend when she was a new hire, but forgetting about all the others. She brought burnt pizza home every night for us to eat. If it was burnt they couldn’t sell it. And believe it or not I still love pizza. Its one of my favorites. Just not Cassano’s.

She worked at an orange packaging plant in California and got a heat stroke. Our neighbor, an older German lady watched over us while she was in the hospital. I don’t remember anything about it. My sister Shirley remembers it.

I also remember my mom talking about her working a factory job as a Soderer but I can’t remember where. She worked for a Japanese lady as a cook and she a part time evening job she cleaned the beauty shop for my aunt Treva (out-of-business).  She had little job at Cheerheart Laundromat (now out of business). She also worked at a tax office on 14th St in Middletown (out-of-business). I should ask my aunt Jackie what she remembers. She may have had even more than these.

My Grandma Phebie had several odd jobs; she worked for many years as a cook and nanny for Russ Dryer of Middletown. I have to ask why a women with 10 kids would want that job?

We all have so many odd jobs… I joke that I’m a jack of all trades – master of none. It is fun to think back at all the things we did over the years and the many different reasons that we may have worked there. The people we met and the experiences we shared. We’ve all sang a chorus or two of the old ditty, “Take this job and shove it” even when we like our job. It make us feel a little empowered doesn’t it?

Briefly I’ll post my many odd jobs:

  1. My first job was at a little restaurant in Franklin, Ohio called Jerry’s Restaurant (out-of-business).
  2. I was working at Trotter’s in Springboro (out-of-business) when I got the call that my mom died.
  3. Elwald’s Pet Shop in Middletown owned by my uncle (out-of-business) as a clerk right after I got married. He paid me $2.00 per hour and I walked to and from. I worked for a few months as a bank teller in Middletown.
  4. Metcalf Residential Concrete in Germantown, Ohio for 25 years – retired.
  5. Metcalf Restoration & Sales in Middletown, currently 2 years

For most of my adult life I’ve been an office manager for the companies my husband has owned. But trust me – I work! I tried to pay someone to do my job once when I needed a break… sheesh… it took 3 people to fill the positions and I still had to go behind them and clean up their messes. So it was back to me. I think we all need to work to keep us occupied and give ourselves a sense of self-worth. I love my job. LOL

It is one thing to show a man that he is in an error, and another to put him in a position of truth. ~ John Locke


Did your mother or grandmother work outside the home? What did she do? Describe her occupation.