June is the traditional month of weddings –

is anyone celebrating a wedding/anniversary this June? Have you already attended a wedding this month? If your anniversary is in June, how many years have you been married?

• Name or describe briefly your spouse (or partner) – age, appearance, work, interests, etc.
• Note when & where you got married. In a few words describe the ceremony, who attended, where you went on your honeymoon, and any other factual highlights from that day, the ceremony itself, and the preparations for it.

Anthony & I had a simple wedding (on the spur of the moment – really & no, I wasn’t expecting). We were married in the living room of the house Anthony was born in Springboro, but it had a Franklin address. The house itself had undergone some serious changes, but it was the same house. I bought a twenty dollar white dress from Kmart and we exchanged two dollar rings from Hills Department Store (both stores are gone now). That’s why I decided that for our 35th Wedding Anniversary Vow Renewal to do it up right. I’ve had two different sets of rings since our original set. I can tell you about those later. The set I wear now he gave me for Christmas one year. So sweet. I love them, so when he asked me if I wanted a new set for our renewal, I said, “no.” When he first proposed to me, he was so adorable. I that couldn’t have said no, even if I had wanted to & I didn’t. It was a decision that I have never regretted.Every marriage undergoes its troubles and trails, but you never give up on each other.

When & how did you and your mate decide to get married? Was it love at first sight? Or did a friendship develop into love? Was there a formal proposal? Did you (the future groom) ask your future father-in-law for permission to marry? Was there an engagement ring or symbol of intent? Did you live together before getting married? How long was your engagement?

Anthony & I were engaged two weeks after we “officially” introduced (we had had a couple brief encounter but not really introduced) at his brother’s house & he later proposed in their driveway.  His brother’s wife had introduced us. I was her babysitter. She also happens to be my sister’s sister-in-law. [This is how most relationships form. That’s why its critical to find each family member of three generations on both sides of a relationship when doing genealogy, because they will introduce new people & tend to intermarry. I find it will save you so much time by entering it as soon as you find it. That way, you don’t have to backup and figure out the link later. ] Our first date was to the Dayton Mall (in Miamisburg) . Anthony later, took me to the same mall to pick out an engagement ring. I chose a tiny little white gold diamond ring from Rogers Jewelers. I showed it off like it was 10 carats. I still have it in my jewelry box today. I had a diamond jacket soldered to it and it caused the back to break off. I thought of having it reset, but I still love it just the way it is, so it will stay that way. Sentimental reasons. Our wedding we discuss at another date. It was an event unto itself.

Do you recall your wedding and all the preparations leading up to it? Who did what? Was it fairly straight forward or complicated?

Tell us about it!

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Married in January’s roar and rime,
Widowed you’ll be before your prime
Married in February’s sleepy weather,
Life you’ll tread in time together
Married when March winds shrill and roar,
Your home will lie on a distant shore
Married ‘neath April’s changeful skies,
A chequered path before you lies
Married when bees o’er May blossoms flit,
Strangers around your board will sit
Married in month of roses June,
Life will be one long honeymoon
Married in July with flowers ablaze,
Bitter-sweet memories in after days
Married in August’s heat and drowse,
Lover and friend in your chosen spouse
Married in September’s golden glow,
Smooth and serene your life will go
Married when leaves in October thin,
Toil and hardships for you begin
Married in veils of November mist,
Fortune your wedding ring has kissed
Married in days of December’s cheer,
Love’s star shines brighter from year to year.

 

It’s Our 31st Wedding Anniversary

…today and we will celebrate another year of being not just husband and wife, but best friends.

I hear people say they aren’t happy in their relationship, and I find it really sad. You should feel as close to and know your spouse as well as you do yourself.

There will always be hard times and disappointment in every relationship, but with your commitment to each other comes great responsibility to that other person. Love that person more than you love yourself and they’ll then return it the same way. Support each other and be happy together.

I love my life and I love my husband. He allows me to be me. In every way I choose and in all the ways that I’ve changed. No one stays the same person they married. I’ve also heard it said, that a persons personality changes every 9 years. So we must adapt ourselves to those changes, not only in ourselves but in each other. Let the other person feel what they’re feeling at the time, even if we don’t agree that’s the right way to handle it. Respect is key here.

I started to write my husband some corny poem, and give him the traditional watch (he’d never wear), but it wasn’t how I was feeling today. He knows that I love everything about him. I may not like all the things that he does nor he I yet, it’s through our commitment to each other, we bare it.

I have a fount of useless information about classic muscle cars and he has a working knowledge of gardening, not that he will ever do it, but he helps when I ask and that’s all I can ask of him.

So, I am looking forward to our next 31 years with the same enthusiasm (maybe even more so) and commitment, than the first thirty-one. I wrote him a love note when we were dating and I told him, “That I’d love him for life… because nothing lasts forever.” I know now, that it’s commitment that makes everything last, and that is forever.

Happy 31st Anniversary… I love you, Hun!

ah… don’t worry, it won’t last 6 months! lol

Making commitments generates hope. Keeping commitments generates trust. ~ Blaine Lee

 

How did they meet?

You’ve documented marriages, now, go back a bit. Do you know the story of how your parents met? Your grandparents?

Earth’s the right place for love: I don’t know where it’s likely to go better. ~ Robert Frost

 

To My Valentine…

A valentine is a very special way to tell someone you care. The special someone may be a sweetheart, a friend, a teacher, or your parents. Usually, a valentine has a short rhyme that tells how you feel. One valentine favorite is an old nursery rhyme:

Roses are red, violets are blue,
Sugar is sweet, and so are you.

A valentine also has symbols of love. These can be flowers, doves or cupids. Cupids are chubby little children with wings. They are named for cupid the Roman god of love. A cupid usually has a bow and arrow. It is said that anyone struck in the heart by one of cupid’s arrows will fall in love.

No one knows for sure how Valentine’s Day began… but one of my favorite tales is…

Long ago, people living in England believed that the birds picked their mates on February 14. And so the people chose this day to send messages of love to each other.

It really doesn’t really matter how the custom of sending valentine’s began… whether it was for the Saint’s that were killed on that day or for St. Valentine, when he was cast into jail, and the children him tossed letters into him to let him know they cared or even for the birds. What does matter is that Valentine’s Day is a wonderful chance for you to tell someone how much he or she means to you. And there is one nice thing about a valentine. You don’t have to sign it if you don’t want the person to know who sent it.

Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart.  ~Author Unknown and Me!

 

Imperfections

that imperfection is perfect – I talk a lot about the little things in a marriage, that make it memorable and this little video says it better than any words I could have ever expressed. It’s a new commercial that takes a humorous look at marriage from a grieving widow and how much she will miss the little everyday things that made her life with her husband special.

Make today a day of sharing stories about your life that your partner doesn’t know about yet.

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What little things will you miss?

 

What moment is captured in the picture frame next to your bed?

is it your wedding photo, a sporting event, pictures of your children or a favorite pet? We keep our most cherished moments [memories] close to us through pictures. They show our most prized possessions; successes in life.

What moment is captured in the picture frame next to your bed?

Even a stopped clock is right twice every day. After some years, it can boast of a long series of successes. ~ Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach