Ada Grey Adkins Montgomery
(April 27, 1934 – February 4, 2014)

Ada Grey Adkins Montgomery age 79 of Salyersville, Kentucky passed away Tuesday, February 4, 2014 at the Pikeville Medical Center in Pikeville, Kentucky. She was born April 27, 1934 in Magoffin County, Kentucky to the late Henry and Lula Hall Adkins. Also preceding her in death is her husband Normal Lee Montgomery. Survivors include one son Jimmy (Shelia) Montgomery of Salyersville, Kentucky, three daughters Della Minix, Tammy (Charles) Wright and Valerie Montgomery all of Salyersville, Kentucky, one brother Woodrow Pete (Kay) Adkins of West Liberty, Kentucky, four sisters Ruth (Jim) Waugh of Elizabethtown, Kentucky, Ann (James) Leach of Mt. Sterling, Kentucky, Ruby Wingo of West Liberty, Kentucky and Hon (Ronnie) Cole Ezel, Kentucky, 7 grandchildren and 6 great grandchildren also survive.

Besides Ada’s parents and husband she is preceded in death by one son Bobby (Charlotte) Montgomery, three brothers James Adkins, Hershel Adkins and Homer Adkins and five sisters Rosa Lee Adkins, Myrtle Adkins, Rhuie Adkins, Della Long and Thelma Jean Allen.

Funeral services for Ada Grey Montgomery will be conducted at 11 am Friday, February 7, 2014 from the Magoffin County Funeral Home Chapel with Mark Campbell and Mike Tackett officiating. Burial will follow in the Cook Cemetery at Cripple Creek, Kentucky. Friends may call the funeral home after 6 pm Wednesday, February 5, 2014, all day Thursday and anytime Friday prior to funeral services.

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Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.~ e. e. cummings

Janet Fannin
(August 27, 1955 – August 12, 2013)

Janet Adkins Fannin, 57 years, 11 months and 16 days olds of West Liberty, KY passed away Monday, August 12,2013 in the St.Claire Medical Center, Morehead, KY after an extended illness.

She was born August 27, 1955 in Salyersville, KY daughter of the late Ben and Ethel Montgomery Adkins. In addition to her parents, she was preceded in death by her, son,David Shawn Fannin. Five sisters, Ileen Williams, Edith Whitt, Faye Manning, Sue Paxton and Mae Adkins. One brother,Charles Adkins.

She is survived by her Companion, Edward Fannin, West Liberty, KY.Two daughters, Michelle Fannin and Mary Holliday, both of West Liberty, KY. A son, Edward Fannin Jr., West Liberty, KY. Two sisters, Mabel Pennix and Alice Scurry, both of West Liberty, KY.

Seven brothers, Hager Adkins, Lonnie Adkins, Wheeler Adkins, Russell Adkins, all of West Liberty, KY. Roy Adkins of Mt.Sterling, KY. Herbert Adkins, of Owingsville, KY. Robert Adkins of Salyersville, KY. Six grandchildren, Dakota(Chinphasinee)Stamper, Cierra Holliday, Hunter Chase Clark, Madison Fannin, Maylea Haney and Tyra Scott Fannin. One great grandchild, Dakota Brantley Stamper.

Funeral Services will be 11:AM, Thursday, August 15, 2013 at Herald & Stewart & Halsey Chapel with Elder Benny Wright officiating. Burial in the Scurry Cemetery, Jones Creek, KY.

Visitation 6:PM, Wednesday at Herald & Stewart & Halsey Funeral Home, West Liberty, KY.

Pallbearers; Bruce Wingo, Randy Williams, Hager Adkins Jr., Lonnie Adkins Jr., Shane Sheets and Ballard Fannin.

Death must be so beautiful. To lie in the soft brown earth, with the grasses waving above one’s head, and listen to silence. To have no yesterday, and no to-morrow. To forget time, to forgive life, to be at peace. ~ Oscar Wilde

Self-Evaluation. I love & hate reading and rereading old journal notes, Study Guides are the hardest; especially when you realize that 21 years has past, since you had made the note, things are still the same.

I’ve been taking a long look at how I’ve changed (or not) over the last few years; seemly not for the better either. I just read a line that I had written in an old study guide, under a section on “The Male Ego,” Q: What is an “unsafe subject” in your house? A: Religion. Only one word written, which in and of itself was odd for me. I tend to talk a subject to death.

I didn’t date the quiz, but the next page says, next to Q: #6… he would dress differently. A: “’92 He has greatly improved because I buy all of his clothes.” (Guessing here, that I should have said, I pick them out). Followed by 2 “buts,” yep, there’s always a “but” in every plan. I think that is what ultimately gets us.

The carrot was next to a list of things you’d want your spouse to change, next to #8 I had unlined “church.” …Pyrrhic victory. Any change a wife forces on her husband is at best temporary. Alexander Pope once said, “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”

So, love your husband as he is — faults and all — and trust God to deal with him as HE wills. I did notice that I had primarily noted his faults – not my own. Which in and of itself, says a lot about mine.

A question is then asked, “List here specific things God has shown you in this lesson. Pray about them.” I have two different responses. One immediate and one when we revisited this at the end of the study. My immediate response was: Realize many problems are my own fault. (Wow! I can’t even believe that I had written that.) Later after completing the study, I wrote, “I have to support Anthony in every aspect of his being to fulfill mine.

I know, I can hear every feminist on the planet screaming right now, but if you had taken this study, you’d know they were trying to instruct us on how to relate to one another equally and on an individual level. Understanding each other as an individual, then as a couple.
I think many marriages fail because we think that if we try hard enough, we can make them into whom we want them to be, not whom they really are. As we try and do with our children, but that’s an even deeper subject.

Lastly, I had written, “Respect his ever changing personality and include his differences, not as a joke, but as part of who he is. (Yes, I wrote that. In my own handwriting. I know right!)

I don’t know if I need to set some “New Goals,” or just try and live up to my old ones.

It’s very hard to change long term because circumstances change everyday. New problems – old problems; people!

Reality check: Do I need to change?

Just thinking out loud today.

Erman PEARSON
Born: 3 Apr 1928 Estill, Kentucky
Death: 5 May 2013  Miamisburg, Montgomery, Ohio
Burial: 11 May 2013
Highland Memorial Cemetery. Miamisburg, Montgomery, Ohio

PEARSON, Erman Age 85, of Miamisburg, OH, passed away, Sunday, May 5, 2013, at Sycamore Hospital. He was born in Estill County, KY, on April 3, 1928, to the late Tilford and Mary Jane (Arnold) Pearson. He retired from General Motors ~ Harrison Radiator Division; and was a home builder in the Carlisle area for many years. Erman attended Middletown Unity Baptist Church. He served in the U.S. Army as a drill instructor and demonstrated cadence to West Point Cadets. He earned his Third Degree Black Belt in Karate at the age of 48. In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by his loving and devoted wife of 46 years, Edith (Stamper) Pearson; 5 sisters, Georgia Sparks, Pearlie Mae Sparks, Clara Adkins, Lula Mae Metcalf, and Sarah Tressie Pearson; 6 brothers, his twin Therman, Andy, Jimmy, Delbert, and Tilford “Jr.”, and Paul Pearson; and his son-in-law, James Moore. He is survived by his loving wife of 18 years, Lou Verney (Sebastian) Pearson; his son, Doyle and wife Fern Pearson of Miamisburg; 2 daughters, Patricia and husband Eugene Hazlett of Greenwood, SC and Phyllis Moore of Carlisle; a step-son Glenn (Kathy) Turner of Austin, IN; grandchildren, Ryan (Sara-Beth) Moore, Marie Hazlett, Michael Hazlett, Curtis (Holly) and Clint (Katie) Pearson; step grandchildren, Ana-Licia and John Turner; great-grandchildren, twins Katelynn & Kaylie Moore and James Paul Moore; Gabriel & Ayden Hazlett, Matthew & Lydia Pearson and Caleb Pearson. Family and friends may call 6-9 p.m., Friday May 10th, at the Dalton Funeral Home, Corner of State Route 4 & Weaver Rd., Germantown, where the Funeral Service will be held Saturday at 10 a.m. Burial will be at Highland Cemetery.

Grace is in garments, in movements, in manners; beauty in the nude, and in forms. This is true of bodies; but when we speak of feelings, beauty is in their spirituality, and grace in their moderation. ~ Joseph Joubert

We’ve all seen those lists for “20 things they should have known at 20 years old.” For example, make older friends so you learn from them, stay in shape when you’re younger so it’s easier when you’re older, do crazy things when you’re young because you’ll be too conservative to do them when you’re not, and sleep. Not every item on their list will apply to everyone, but those are certainly a few good tips to keep in mind even if you’re a little younger or older than 20. I have to wonder what 50 things that I should have known at 50 years old(or older)?

By 50: Manopause does exist, all of those excuses that you gave as a young woman will come back to bite you in the butt as an older woman (roles reverse), as soon as it comes out of your mouth someone will have invented it, like the wind; if you whisper someones name – they’ll blow in, never trust anyone with a secret – for they too have friends, show compassion to all, for soon you may know their experience, play brain-teasers to keep your mind sharp or they’ll tell you that you can hide your own Easter eggs, oh yeah and the sleep thing is for real.

Personally, I’ve learned a lot from life experiences, family members, teachers and believe it or not, even”spammers.” I’ve often said, “If my friends were as nice to me as the spammers on my blog, I’d walk around all day singing like Lesley Gore, “Sunshine, Lollipops And Rainbows, Everything that’s wonderful is what I feel when we’re together.”” But… here in the real world!

Today, while sharing some of the heartfelt (tongue-in-cheek) comments from my beloved spammers from my blog with my youngest son Steven, we had a huge laugh. I said, “Where do they find the time? and With them, I’ll never be lonely.” I know I have a lot to learn, but I also know horsepucky when I’m wading through it; compliments so vague that they could be posted anywhere to fit any & all circumstance in life, I should memorize them, then I’d have the pat answer for every situation. Looks like I have learned a few things over the years after all.

I’ve never actually compiled a list of 50 things, although I’m sure if I Googled it, one does exist somewhere. Just not my own. If I did find said list, it would most assuredly consist primarily of what that writer believes [See where I put the emphasis?]. I may know a lot less or a little more than they, that’s not to say they’d be right in either case. Not to mention that their life lesson(s) wouldn’t be prudent to my lifestyle either, as mine may not be to theirs. That should be number one on my list. Never except anyone’s thoughts or lifestyle over my own.

Yesterday, I found myself quoting someone from years ago, someone that told me, “Not to believe anything that I hear and only half of what I see.” Now, those are words to live by. That should probably be number two on my list. [He said it from the pulpit, about once a week, he was a old preacher aka sexual predator that was privately thrown out of the church for having oral with select ladies of the church, but I try and remember that my mom said it too, so I choose to say the words come from her.] Go MOM!

I’m may be rightly thinking that number three should have something to do with dealing with liars or people pretending to be something that they’re not (or not). Just sayin’!

Today, I posted a quote, via one of my avid spammers, on my niece’s Facebook page, “There’s No Rush in Life: Take your risks at the right time and finally, at every stage in life, you will face the opportunity to take risks. The older you become, the more responsibilities you will have and the greater your risks. In other words, take your risks at the right time and don’t keep postponing them. It’s always best to make your mistakes early so you can rectify them.” She’s always putting something witty on her page, so I found this appropriate for her today, no matter “from whence it came.” And, to him/her I’d like to express a very sincere heart-felt thanks for the truly fitting random thought that it was.

I always tell my friends that anything worth saying has already been said, you just have to find the person that said it first; ie:”My life in a cloud.” Words of wisdom can come from anywhere; knowing what to record to memory and what to dismiss as pucky, is the same as, knowing the difference between wisdom and knowledge. Knowing something – doesn’t make it wise. Also, there is a scripture that will fit every circumstance in your life, ie: A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. ~ Proverbs 25:11 [roughly translated means: adapted to their circumstances; right person – right time]. And it reads like poetry. It just doesn’t get any better than that.

Above all, I do feel that the “Sleep” part suggested above by age 20, well, that never really works out for a woman of any age, and it becomes increasingly harder around age 50. Trust me. I could share a long list of bad things that happen after age 50, but it may dissuade you from wanting to reach it. I only wish I had listened to some of my older friends, who did try to warn me about a few things. To be honest, I thought they were making it up. Turns out to be too true for words. MERCY!

I would further like to add, I do enjoy the suspense… we could discuss Tuesday’s cleaning list, but where would the fun be in that?

What do you wish you knew when you were younger?

Share yours in the comments.

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime. ~ And then it’s winter…

Mae Howard
Born: 10 May 1932 in Magoffin, Kentucky
Died: 03 Feb 2013 in Salyersville, Magoffin, Kentucky
Burial: 08 Feb 2013 in Rocklick Cemetery, Coon Creek, Kentucky

Parents:
Alfred “Alf” Howard (1898 – 1979)
Eliza Jane Adkins (1899-1983)

Mae Howard age 80 of Salyersville, Kentucky passed away Sunday, February 3, 2013 at the Salyersville Health Care Center in Salyersville, Kentucky. Mae was born May 10, 1932 in Magoffin County, Kentucky to the late Alfred and Eliza Adkins Howard. She is also preceded in death by her husband Corbett Howard. Mae is survived by two sons Robert Lee (Sue) Howard of West Liberty, Kentucky, Kenny Dean (Shirl) Howard of Salyersville, Kentucky, five daughters Barbara Kaye (Grant) Cantrell of Salyersville, Kentucky, Meridith Gaye Holbrook of Salyersville, Kentucky, Evella Faye (Charlie) Ratliff of Paintsville, Kentucky, Della Lynn (Bobby) Howard of Salyersville, Kentucky and Perscilla Howard of Lexington, Kentucky, two brothers Henry Howard of Salyersville, Kentucky and John L. Howard of Morgan Fork, Ohio, one sister Dessie Bailey of Salyersville, Kentucky, 11 grandchildren, one step grand child, 11 great grandchildren and 2 great great grandchildren also survives.

Besides her parents Mae is preceded in death by two brothers Kelly Howard and Jasper Howard, five sisters Carrie Howard, Druzie Montgomery, Lula Salyer, Junie Tackett and Hermalee Lemaster, one son in law Ray Holbrook and one daughter in law Lisa Howard.

Funeral services for Mae Howard will be conducted at 1 pm Friday, February 8, 2013 from the Magoffin County Funeral Home Chapel with burial to follow in the Rocklick Cemetery at Coon Creek, Kentucky. Officiating will be Paul Brown and Merrill Adkins. Friends may call the funeral home after 6 pm Wednesday, February 6, 2013 all day Thursday and anytime Friday prior to funeral services.

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So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. ~ 1 Corinthians 15:54

I’ll meet you in the morning with a “How do you do,”
And we’ll sit down by the river,
And with rapture auld acquaintance renew.
You’ll know me in the morning,
By the smiles that I wear,
When I meet you in the morning
In that city that is built foursquare.

I wanted to share a little ditty from my inbox that I felt was appropriate today.

After a cousin shared an old photo of one of her #x’s Great-Grandmother’s 101st birthday, that had passed at age 102; with me this week it made me think.

Her Grandmother was a vibrant woman, living and loving everyday of her life. She didn’t let anything stop her. I wish that I could share her photo but its not my story to share. God bless you today and keep living life to its fullest, we can’t control what is going on around us or even to us at times, but it will come our time before we know it. You don’t want to miss a minute of it!

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And then it is Winter…
You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well…seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just a simple thing is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s sometimes mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over God will be there.

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by so fast. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

LIVE IT WELL!

ENJOY TODAY!

DO SOMETHING FUN!

BE HAPPY!

BE THANKFUL!

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

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Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. ~ Author unknown.