Reflections


Albert Roscoe “Tom” Adkins

Birth: 5 Jan 1930
Portsmouth
Scioto County
Ohio, USA
Death: 25 Aug 2016
Grundy
Buchanan County
Virginia, USA

Obituary for Albert Adkins

Albert R. “Tom” Adkins, age 86 of Grundy, Virginia passed away on Thursday, August 25, 2016 at Heritage Hall Nursing Home Grundy, Virginia.

Born January 5, 1930 at Portsmouth, Ohio, he was the son of the late
Kelly and Phoebie Reed Adkins. Tom was the Building Official for Buchanan
County for over 35 Years. He was a member of the Harmon Memorial Baptist Church.

In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by his first wife,
Marcella Adkins, two sisters, Mary Sue Dyehouse and Ruth Griffith, two
Brothers Hassell Adkins and Willie Adkins.

SURVIVORS INCLUDE
His wife of over 26 years, June Adkins of Grundy, Virginia
Four Daughters
Janet Stacy and husband Tim of Hurley, Virginia
Connie Davis and husband Larry of Big Rock, Virginia
Jennifer J. Adkins and companion Grady Killingsworth of Maryville, Tennessee
Neda Peoples and husband Dane of Radford, Virginia
Seven Grandchildren and five Great Grandchildren
Two Sisters
Ella Birchfield and husband Darwood of Middletown, Ohio
Betty Jenson and husband Jim of Middletown, Ohio
Two Brothers
Denny R, Adkins and wife Joan of Atlanta, Georgia
Russell Adkins of Santa Anna, California

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Mary Sue Dyehouse
Birth: 6 May 1940
Death: 6 Aug 2016

Mary Sue Adkins Dyehouse, 76, of Middletown, died Saturday, August 6, 2016, at Kettering Medical Center. She was born in Cisco, Magoffin, Kentucky on May 6, 1940 to parents Kelly and Phebie (Reed) Adkins.

Mary Sue was a loving and caring mother and grandmother. She was a homemaker and a member of Christian Enterprise Baptist Church. One of her greatest joys in life was Buda Night.

Mrs. Dyehouse is survived by her daughter, Terry (Roger) Jones; brothers, Tom (June) Adkins, Russell Adkins, and Denny (Joan) Adkins; sisters, Betty (Jim) Jensen, and Ella (Darewood) Birchfield; grandchildren, Tonya (Steve) Crowder, Dean Russell, Mack (Paula) Stewart, Samantha (Jason) Hoye and Cassie (Todd) Grubb; numerous great grandchildren and sister-in-law, Flora Long.

Mary Sue was preceded in death by her husband, William Peter Dyehouse; daughter, Delores Hammel; brothers, Hassel Adkins, Willie Adkins, and Charles Lee Adkins; sister, Della Ruth Griffith.

Funeral Service will be held Tuesday, August 9, 2016 at 2:00 pm at WILSON-SCHRAMM-SPAULDING FUNERAL HOME, 3805 Roosevelt Blvd., Middletown with Reverend James Anderson officiating. Visitation will be prior to the service from 1:00 – 2:00 pm. Interment will be at Woodside Cemetery.

Memorial donations may be made to National Kidney Foundation, 615 Elsinore Place, Suite 400, Cincinnati, OH 45202.

Spring passes and one remembers one’s innocence.
Summer passes and one remembers one’s exuberance.
Autumn passes and one remembers one’s reverence.
Winter passes and one remembers one’s perseverance.
~ Yoko Ono

See you soon… Pussy Cat!

In light of all the recent tragedies surrounding us. The increasing number of drug related events, facilitates & numerous counts of homicide in the news, loss in general, it’s hard to find the words to comfort the heart of families. I found this poem and I think it puts a heartfelt message to those grieving. I don’t know the writer, but it’s a word spoken in due season. God Bless!

A Fallen Limb

A limb has fallen from the family tree.
I keep hearing a voice that says, “Grieve not for me.
Remember the best times, the laughter, the song.
The good life I lived while I was strong.
Continue my heritage, I’m counting on you.
Keep smiling and surely the sun will shine through.
My mind is at ease, my soul is at rest.
Remembering all, how I truly was blessed.
Continue traditions, no matter how small.
Go on with your life, don’t worry about falls
I miss you all dearly, so keep up your chin.
Until the day comes we’re together again

–Author unknown

School is probably the most important part of a child’s life. Form friendships or not. Maybe, you felt isolated or faked your way through your school years. Never feeling like you could be yourself. Always trying to impress the other children. Oh, if you only got do-overs, what would you change? Think about each school that you attended (for me, I only wished that kind of time – I attended 7 different schools in one school year – we moved around a lot), imagine yourself back in your school building. Walk through the corridors, offices, classrooms. What memories of people and events and moments do these places bring to mind?

How did you do in school? Did you get good grades? How hard did you work?

Recall your most memorial classmates (not necessarily your friends). Recall any moments or occasions of each. Did you wish you were like any of these people? Did you want to be their friend? Were there people that you avoided?

What was your social life like? Imagine its recess or lunch or after school. Walk through your school yard, ball field, auditorium, and gymnasium. Let those places and spaces bring to mind the people, events, moments, and stories of what happened there. What did you play? With whom? Were you popular, liked by many of your classmates? Did you feel like a nerd, hoodie, prep, jock or complete outsider? What group or clique did you belong to? Did you want to be a part of this group or was it the only group that you felt would except you? Did you spend time inviting or excluding others from your group? Were you a mean person or a victim? Did you try to join a clique and were denied? What were the other groups? How did you feel about them? Were there any bullies (physical or emotional) at school? Were there any times that they bothered you? Were you ever a bully? Did you ever get into a fight?

Recall your favorite and least favorite subjects and teachers. What subjects did you like best? Imagine yourself back in school, in those classes, with those teachers. What moments or occasions do you remember of each of them? Did you have a crush on any of them? What teachers did you like the least? Recall each of them and what happened to make you dislike them. Recall some moments when you did well or not so well.

Recall the clubs and groups you belonged to. What memories do you have of these. Were you in any plays? What role?

What was your personal reputation in school? Did anything happen to give you a reputation? Did your reputation come, at least in part, because of your family, or our brothers or sisters?

Did you ever receive any recognition, positive or negative? What did you do to earn awards? Did you ever get in trouble? Were you punished?

Recall any memorable school events. Visitors? Field trips? Games? Did your parents ever come to school? Did they attend any of your school events or games?

Did you take classes outside of school? Music? Dance? Art? Were they important to you?

What is an inspirational quote/suggestion you got as a graduate, or one that you want to share with a graduate? With many colleges/schools holding commencement activities this weekend and in the coming weeks, graduates will hear many speeches with words of wisdom. Are there any words you especially remember from a graduation? Is there something special you would like to say to a graduate?

These complications cast a steadily gathering shadow over my daily life. They took one away from all the interesting things one wanted to do in the nursery or in the garden. They made increasing inroads upon one’s leisure. One could hardly get time to do any of the things one wanted to do. They became a general worry and preoccupation. More especially was this true when we descended into a dismal bog called ‘sums.’ There appeared to be no limit to these. When one sum was done, there was always another. Just as soon as I managed to tackle a particular class of these afflictions, some other much more variegated type was thrust upon me. My mother took no part in these impositions, but she gave me to understand that she approved of them and she sided with the Governess almost always. ~ My Early Life by Winston Churchill

A clothesline was a news forecast
To neighbors passing by.

There were no secrets you could keep
When clothes were hung to dry.

It also was a friendly link,
For neighbors always knew

If company had stopped on by
To spend a night or two.

For then you’d see the fancy sheets
And towels upon the line;

You’d see the company tablecloths
With intricate design.

The line announced a baby’s birth
To folks who lived inside,

As brand new infant! clothes were hung
So carefully with pride.

The ages of the children could
So readily be known,

By watching how the sizes changed,
You’d know how much they’d grown.

It also told when illness struck,
As extra sheets were hung;

Then nightclothes, and a bathrobe, too,
Haphazardly were strung.

It said, “Gone on vacation now,”
When lines hung limp and bare.

It told, “We’re back!” when full lines sagged,
With not an inch to spare.

But clotheslines now are of the past,
For dryers make work less.

Now what goes on inside a home
Is anybody’s guess.

I really miss that way of life.
It was a friendly sign,

When neighbors knew each other best,
By what hung on the line! ~ Author Unknown

We’ve all seen those lists for “20 things they should have known at 20 years old.” For example, make older friends so you learn from them, stay in shape when you’re younger so it’s easier when you’re older, do crazy things when you’re young because you’ll be too conservative to do them when you’re not, and sleep. Not every item on their list will apply to everyone, but those are certainly a few good tips to keep in mind even if you’re a little younger or older than 20. I have to wonder what 50 things that I should have known at 50 years old(or older)?

By 50: Manopause does exist, all of those excuses that you gave as a young woman will come back to bite you in the butt as an older woman (roles reverse), as soon as it comes out of your mouth someone will have invented it, like the wind; if you whisper someones name – they’ll blow in, never trust anyone with a secret – for they too have friends, show compassion to all, for soon you may know their experience, play brain-teasers to keep your mind sharp or they’ll tell you that you can hide your own Easter eggs, oh yeah and the sleep thing is for real.

Personally, I’ve learned a lot from life experiences, family members, teachers and believe it or not, even”spammers.” I’ve often said, “If my friends were as nice to me as the spammers on my blog, I’d walk around all day singing like Lesley Gore, “Sunshine, Lollipops And Rainbows, Everything that’s wonderful is what I feel when we’re together.”” But… here in the real world!

Today, while sharing some of the heartfelt (tongue-in-cheek) comments from my beloved spammers from my blog with my youngest son Steven, we had a huge laugh. I said, “Where do they find the time? and With them, I’ll never be lonely.” I know I have a lot to learn, but I also know horsepucky when I’m wading through it; compliments so vague that they could be posted anywhere to fit any & all circumstance in life, I should memorize them, then I’d have the pat answer for every situation. Looks like I have learned a few things over the years after all.

I’ve never actually compiled a list of 50 things, although I’m sure if I Googled it, one does exist somewhere. Just not my own. If I did find said list, it would most assuredly consist primarily of what that writer believes [See where I put the emphasis?]. I may know a lot less or a little more than they, that’s not to say they’d be right in either case. Not to mention that their life lesson(s) wouldn’t be prudent to my lifestyle either, as mine may not be to theirs. That should be number one on my list. Never except anyone’s thoughts or lifestyle over my own.

Yesterday, I found myself quoting someone from years ago, someone that told me, “Not to believe anything that I hear and only half of what I see.” Now, those are words to live by. That should probably be number two on my list. [He said it from the pulpit, about once a week, he was a old preacher aka sexual predator that was privately thrown out of the church for having oral with select ladies of the church, but I try and remember that my mom said it too, so I choose to say the words come from her.] Go MOM!

I’m may be rightly thinking that number three should have something to do with dealing with liars or people pretending to be something that they’re not (or not). Just sayin’!

Today, I posted a quote, via one of my avid spammers, on my niece’s Facebook page, “There’s No Rush in Life: Take your risks at the right time and finally, at every stage in life, you will face the opportunity to take risks. The older you become, the more responsibilities you will have and the greater your risks. In other words, take your risks at the right time and don’t keep postponing them. It’s always best to make your mistakes early so you can rectify them.” She’s always putting something witty on her page, so I found this appropriate for her today, no matter “from whence it came.” And, to him/her I’d like to express a very sincere heart-felt thanks for the truly fitting random thought that it was.

I always tell my friends that anything worth saying has already been said, you just have to find the person that said it first; ie:”My life in a cloud.” Words of wisdom can come from anywhere; knowing what to record to memory and what to dismiss as pucky, is the same as, knowing the difference between wisdom and knowledge. Knowing something – doesn’t make it wise. Also, there is a scripture that will fit every circumstance in your life, ie: A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. ~ Proverbs 25:11 [roughly translated means: adapted to their circumstances; right person – right time]. And it reads like poetry. It just doesn’t get any better than that.

Above all, I do feel that the “Sleep” part suggested above by age 20, well, that never really works out for a woman of any age, and it becomes increasingly harder around age 50. Trust me. I could share a long list of bad things that happen after age 50, but it may dissuade you from wanting to reach it. I only wish I had listened to some of my older friends, who did try to warn me about a few things. To be honest, I thought they were making it up. Turns out to be too true for words. MERCY!

I would further like to add, I do enjoy the suspense… we could discuss Tuesday’s cleaning list, but where would the fun be in that?

What do you wish you knew when you were younger?

Share yours in the comments.

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime. ~ And then it’s winter…

Usually, January seems to go on & on, but it’s flown by this year (at least it seems that way). How did the 1st month of 2013 go for you? What’s one thing you set out to do that you accomplished in January? A new exercise plan? Getting life more organized? On this last day of the month, tell us!

Man is the only animal that blushes. Or needs to. ~ Mark Twain

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